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One day, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror while getting dressed, and my immediate thought was: Whose body is this?
It wasn’t a dramatic moment—no soft piano music playing in the background, no cinematic single tear rolling down my cheek.
Just a casual, exhausted mom realizing that somewhere between pregnancy, breastfeeding, sleepless nights, stress eating, and life, my body had changed in ways I wasn’t totally prepared for.
And, honestly? I didn’t feel great about it.
I didn’t hate my body, but I definitely wasn’t vibing with it.
I missed the ease of feeling good naked, the confidence I used to have before stretch marks, softer skin, and the sagging that gravity just won’t let go of.
If you’ve ever felt like your body is a stranger’s—or like you’d rather flick off the lights and avoid mirrors altogether—you’re not alone.
But here’s the thing: You deserve to feel good naked again. Not for anyone else. Not because society says so. But because you deserve to feel at home in your skin.
1. Stop Waiting to “Earn” Feeling Sexy
You don’t have to hit a goal weight. You don’t need abs. You don’t need to look like your pre-baby self to deserve feeling good naked.
So many of us fall into the trap of “I’ll feel better when…”
- When I lose 10 pounds.
- When I start working out again.
- When my stretch marks fade.
No. Feeling good naked isn’t a reward—it’s a mindset. The more you believe you’re worthy of feeling good right now, the easier it is to embrace your body exactly as it is.
2. Buy Underwear That Actually Fits and Feels Good
Listen. If you’re still wearing the stretched-out nursing bras and saggy underwear that survived postpartum, it’s time.
Go get yourself some underwear that fits your right-now body.
Not your “someday” body. Not the “if I suck in just right” body. The one you live in today.
Find soft, comfortable, pretty things that make you feel good. Not because anyone else will see them, but because you deserve that kind of care.
3. Get Comfortable Seeing Yourself Naked
If you only ever see yourself naked when you’re hurrying to get dressed or sucking everything in, no wonder you feel disconnected from your body.
Try this: Instead of avoiding the mirror, stand in front of it for 30 seconds a day.
No judgment. No self-criticism. Just look. Notice your body for what it is, not just what you wish it was.
It might feel awkward at first, but the more familiar you get with your reflection, the more normal it feels.
And the more normal it feels, the less likely you are to be shocked every time you catch a glimpse.
4. Move in Ways That Make You Feel Strong, Not Just Smaller
If the only reason you exercise is to change your body, it starts to feel like punishment.
But if you move in ways that make you feel strong—not just thinner—you start to reconnect with your body instead of resenting it.
Try dancing in your kitchen. Stretch before bed. Lift something heavy.
Do a yoga pose that makes you feel like a badass.
Move in a way that makes you feel powerful, not just in a way that “burns calories.”
5. Give Your Body More of What It Loves
Your body does so much for you. Instead of punishing it, start giving it more of what it actually loves.
- More water.
- More sleep.
- More lotion after the shower.
- More clothes that fit well.
- More slow, deep breaths.
- More pleasure (yep, that kind, too).
You wouldn’t treat a best friend like garbage. Start treating your body like your best friend.
6. Stop Comparing Your Body to a Version That No Longer Exists
Your pre-kids body was great. But guess what? Your right-now body is, too.
It’s done things that body never did. It’s carried you through long nights, hard seasons, and more than a few mental breakdowns.
Your body is not ruined. It’s just different. And different is not a bad thing.
7. Remind Yourself That Sexy Is a Feeling, Not a Size
Have you ever seen someone walk into a room and they just own it?
Their energy? Their confidence? That’s sexy—and it has absolutely nothing to do with their waistline.
Confidence is what makes someone attractive.
And confidence doesn’t come from looking a certain way. It comes from believing you are worthy, desirable, and completely enough exactly as you are.
8. Give Yourself Permission to Feel Good Naked
Let’s stop acting like moms have to trade in their confidence the second they give birth. We don’t have to settle for feeling awkward in our skin. We don’t have to avoid the mirror, hate our reflection, or wait until we’re “better” to enjoy our bodies.
Your body isn’t the enemy. It’s yours. And you deserve to feel good in it.
Not 10 pounds from now. Not when you “fix” something.
Now. 💛
